Some experiences you never forget. Some are the kind you
want to forget but can’t. They are rarely planned. They can add immeasurably to
your experience of life and to your belief systems but they are rarely pleasant. I have a lot of them. The memories you want to remember are, certainly in
my case, planned. Whitewater rafting down the Zambezi with my young
son, holidays with family in strange, unfamiliar places, the serenity of
the Zambezi River at sunset after a successful day’s fishing.
And then there is climbing Mount Kinabalu.
Two days after the event my body still aches. My legs mainly, my calves, my thighs, my
back, my neck and even my arms. I have a massive black bruise on my inner right thigh
just above the knee. I don’t remember how I sustained it. The last time I was
anything close to this was when I was an 18 year old raw recruit in the British South
Africa Police. My Squad Instructor, Sergeant Mike Lindley, after I had committed some minor infringement, ordered me to cross
my stirrups across the saddle on my horse and then complete the hour long morning
ride, at the trot, without them.
Planning to climb Mount Kinabalu all started three months ahead.
Like all plans, nothing ever turns out exactly the way you expect.
Graham, my son in Brunei, messaged asking me if I wanted to
climb Mount Kinabalu with him.
“Four thousand metres,” he said. It didn’t mean much. I responded
with a ‘yes’.
A few days later another message:
“Before I go ahead and make the bookings, are you sure you want
to climb Kinabalu? Last chance to back out.”
An earlier comment of Graham's in one of our many remote conversations popped into my head:
"We spend too much money today on trying to stay alive and not enough on living it"
So I replied,“Yes. It’s on my bucket list.”
"We spend too much money today on trying to stay alive and not enough on living it"
So I replied,“Yes. It’s on my bucket list.”
I Googled Mount Kilimanjaro. Five thousand, eight hundred and
ninety-five metres. Mount Kinabalu at four thousand metres should be a walk in
the park. I Googled Mount Kinabalu. Pictures may sometimes tell a thousand words
but these ones didn’t. How little I
knew of what I had let myself in for.
I told my golfing friends that I was going to do it. Some
raised their eyebrows, others scoffed at me.
“It’s not walking on the flat, Dave,” said Rob, “It’s
uphill. Climbing. Ever done it before? No? You don’t stand a hope.”
I started to have a slight concern. I walked my dog every
morning – two and a half kilometres minimum, five kilometres maximum over an
hour and a half. Kinabalu from start to finish is nine kilometres and you have
two full days to do it. I got a letter from my doctor in which he pronounced me ‘a
fit 72 year-old’. Why should I be worried?
On Thursday 9th of March 2017 Cherie and I flew out to
Brunei from Harare via Johannesburg and Singapore. Graham and grandson Finn
were there at Bandar Seri Begawan airport to meet us. I had never heard of
Bandar Seri Begawan. I was about to go to other new unheard of places. First was Rimba where Graham lives with Caroline. Then Jerudong
International School where Caroline is a teacher.
Next was Shahbandar, a series
of hills outside Jerudong.
“This is where we’re going to do some training, Dad,” said
Graham.
On Sunday we got up early, drove the few kilometres to
Shahbandar and walked the hills. Three different routes. Six hills, nine hills and
seventeen hills. We started on the ‘easy’ stuff – nine hills.
After the first half-kilometre
I was exhausted and had to stop for breath.
"You normally run this, Graham? Really?”
“Yes, Dad. You’re out of condition. It’ll get better.
Eventually.”
By the end of the nine hills I was a physical wreck. Graham
took a photograph of me with his digital phone. You don’t want to see it.
Two weeks later and five walks on the Shahbandar hills and
we were off to Miri in Malaysia. I managed the seventeen hills a couple of days
before we left. On one occasion I wore Graham’s heart monitor and averaged 135
beats per minute with a following report that said I needed 32 hours recovery
time before attempting anything again. I was way above Graham’s average
heart-beat (97) and way beyond his recovery time (3 hours).
We all drove to Miri – Graham, Caroline, young Finn, Cherie,
me. A two hour journey and border controls to pass through. In the city of Miri
in Malaysia, another hitherto unknown name and place, we stayed at the
sumptuous Marriot hotel and swam and played in the massive pool with friends
Jason, Helen and their four sons.
Jason had climbed Kinabalu and he told me of
his experience:
“It was freezing cold. Minus 2 or 3 degrees. I remember crouching
under rocks to shield ourselves from the biting, howling wind. But we made it.
It was a great experience. You’ll enjoy it.”
Enjoy it? I was more than a little shaken. Apprehensive.
Possibly even scared? I couldn’t sleep at night.
On Sunday the 26th we all flew from Miri to the island of
Labuan and then on to ‘KK’, the colloquial name for another Malaysian city –
Kota Kinabalu. KK is a big place with a big traffic problem. It took us longer
to drive from the airport to our beach hotel than it did to take us to fly to
KK from Miri.
Another sleepless night on Monday/Tuesday. Then a short good-bye to
Cherie, more apprehensive perhaps than me, before Graham and I were collected
from our hotel at 5.15 in the morning by a jovial mini-bus driver who worked for our hosts for this experience, 'Amazing Borneo'.
Now there
was no going back.
I had yet to see Kinabalu from the ground as it had been
shrouded in cloud since our arrival. But Graham had seen it on an early morning
beach walk.
Early for collection of some others we stopped for a coffee.
Then on to collect the rest of our party. We were joined by complete strangers
who were to be our friends for two short days. Tom, Kate, John, Rob and
Katie.
Up the mountains we drove, the excellent road winding
through the jungled hills. Bubbling personality Kate chatted away the entire
journey to Graham, me into the conversation now and then but without my hearing
aids which I had deliberately left behind in our hotel, I missed most of it. I
gazed out the window to get a view if I could of this now dreaded mountain.
Nothing.
We arrived at a holding centre, dozens of people of all
nationalities milling around. Our bus driver had been joined on the hills by a
guide. She told us what we had to do.
“We want see your passports and you sign indemnity.
Follow me”
I showed my passport to an official who handed me a form to complete.
‘What you are about to do is dangerous. You are risking
injury and even death. You are doing this voluntarily. We are not responsible. Name,
Passport Number, Signature, Date.’
“Shit!” was all I could manage in my mind. I filled in the
details and signed.
We were introduced to our guide. Wilson Latius. A young
Malaysian, he looked pleasant enough. We were soon to find out what an
incredibly fine young man he is. Wilson became from that moment on entirely
responsible for me and Graham. Initial smiling photographs taken of the three
of us together, we were issued with a tag with our name and a number and told
to wear it all times. Without the tag on display, no further climbing. I wanted
to buy a mountain trekking pole. There were none in stock but I was able to
hire one. I learned later that this was, for me, an essential piece of
equipment.
Dave and Wilson before the Start |
We were driven to the starting centre. And then we were off.
It was a little after 9:00 am. I don’t remember too much about the six kilometre
climb to Laban Rest House other than it was a physical and mental challenge far
beyond anything I had experienced before.
What I didn’t know was this was the easy part.
There were rest huts every kilometre heralded by the chatter
of climbers who had made it there before us and the smell of the latrines. I
had to ask Wilson and Graham to stop many times in between. The climb varied,
some not too steep, other parts very steep. In many places there were metal
bars placed into the rock face to stabilise the ground to help us. In some
places there were wooden steps with wooden hand rails. In other places there
were only the rocks. Step after gruelling step we worked our way up the
mountain. Time after time I thanked my hired trekking pole for steadying me and
for helping me to use an arm to aid my tired legs. I stopped myself from
looking up because every time I did so, all I saw was other climbers way above
me. When oh when were we going to get to our rest hut? I kept my head down and
muttered to myself with every step, ‘ten, nine, eight, seven, six, five, four, three, two, one’.
And then started the countdown again and again and again.
Along the way many porters passed us carrying goods of all
kinds. Ten, fifteen kilo packs? They had massive calves and leg muscles. We were
to learn later that everything at Laban Rest House was portaged up by these
strapping young men and women who were paid 6 ringgits (US$1) per kilo.
We reached Laban Rest House at 2:15. Our morning bus group
were all there already. I was exhausted. It was cold and windy outside but
nowhere near as cold as it was going to get. Graham bought us both a cup of hot
tea in a massive cup. The best cup of tea I ever had. We joined our little
group at a table and related our experiences.
Tom, we learned, is a pilot for Cathay Pacific. Kate, his
partner is a carer of cats, especially feral cats. John, Tom and Katie are
teachers at an International School.
There were dozens of others present, all cheerful, all
perhaps a little mad, I thought. I was, I realised, definitely out of my mind.
We were by no means the last to get to Laban. As others
arrived in from the cold, a cheer and applause would go up in congratulations
for ‘making it’.
Graham wanted to shower and off he went. I saw another aged
looking climber and went over to talk with him. I still don’t know his name but
I can tell you he was an engineer by profession and he too was climbing with
his son. Australian of Chinese or perhaps Japanese descent from Melbourne, his
son from Sydney. He was sixty-eight years old. I was to meet him and his son
later at a very special place.
Then I too went for the advertised ‘hot shower’. Powered by
solar without any sunshine that day the water was ice cold. Literally. Allocated
‘Dormitory No 3’ I found myself a bottom bunk bed and claimed it with my
backpack. Graham had already done the same.
Back in the dining area it was time for dinner. Hot steaming
rice, hot and cold vegetables, fish, beef, chicken, noodles, gravy. It was all
there for a hundred plus or minus ‘mountaineers’ and I – incredibly – was one
of them. What on earth was I doing here?
On the walls of Laban Rest Hut were many motivational
statements and pictures of previous climbers. Around the dining centre were
flags of all nations. Graham saw the Zimbabwe flag and took my photograph under
it.
Then it was time for bed. We knew the drill. Up at 2:00 am so
that we can ‘breakfast’ then summit and see the sun rise.
Graham and I got ready for the morning. I put on all my
clothes other than my borrowed outer weatherproof jacket and thick, heavy gloves. Socks, underpants, shorts, two
tee-shirts, jersey, track-suit. Nike trainers, jacket, beanie and gloves ready beside
the bed. Graham, having humped quite of lot my kit in his rucksack up as far as
Laban was to take my small rucksack with water to the summit in the morning.
John was already in his top bunk. We were joined by Katie
and Rob. All of us dressed for the early morning.
“All set?”
“Yes thanks.”
Lights out at 7:00 pm. But sleep was hard to come by. During
the night I heard the wind pick up a little. I had heard from another friend of
Graham’s, Tim, that weather conditions prevented his group from making the
final climb. What was the morning going to bring? What would the weather be
like? Would I have the physical and mental stamina to make it to the summit or
not? One half of me hoped the wind would rise and we wouldn’t be allowed to
make the final climb. The other half wanted very much to be able to make the
attempt. I thought of one particular motivational statement on the wall of the
hut:
“Never, ever, ever, give up.”
A long time ago I read a copy of a commencement address
given by Admiral
William H. McRaven, at The University of Texas. I remembered
what he said in that address about never ringing the bell, never giving up. If
you have never read this speech or watched it, I urge you to do so.
During the night the statement became my mantra.
Long before 2:00 am I am awake. Perhaps I did not even
sleep? I hear the kitchen staff preparing our breakfast and other climbers walking
in the passage. Graham calls: “Are we all awake?” and of course, everyone is.
On go the lights and we get ready.
Down for breakfast.
And then we are out in the darkness and the cold. Wilson
with us, ready and smiling. Head torches an essential piece of equipment, are switched on.
Laban Rest House is 3,273 metres high.
The summit 4,095 metres. That’s 822 metres of altitude and 2.5 kilometres of
distance to go. A gradient of roughly 1:3 average. One rest hut between us and
the summit. Graham points out some stars above us. But all I can see are
the lights of torches up above and more of them down below me. Up we go, one
step at a time. After perhaps an hour it starts to rain and an icy wind
picks up. It gets colder by the moment. We are still in the upper mountain forest, yet to break out into
the open.
And then we are there. In the open. I can’t see it, only
feel it. The rain comes down, harder now and the wind intensifies. The
cold creeps in to my body. Hands and feet. Then head and legs. The route changes from rocks
and mud to hard granite. There is a white rope which we had been told to
follow or remain beside if unable to carry on. On and on we climb, slowly, relentlessly, step by step. Me asking far too frequently to stop and rest
awhile. Wilson and Graham are ever patient with me. Climbers in front of us,
climbers behind us. We learned later that some climbers dropped out at this
stage. Even later we learned that some others never left the hut!
I didn’t come this far not to go on.
“Never, ever, ever
give up.” I mutter to myself again and again. I look down. I look up. Only the lights from head torches. The wind and the rain ever stronger. The
cold ever colder. What are we doing on this mountain in the darkness? Why are
we doing it? Are we all out of our tiny minds? Or is it only me?
“Will we make it by sunrise?” I ask Wilson at one of my
frequent requests for a rest in the darkness.
“Yes, David. We’re going to make it,” and in the light of my
head-torch I see him give me the thumbs up.
In
the experience of the moment this gives me a warm glow of real hope and a renewed
determination.
But we aren’t going to see the sunrise this day.
We meet two climbers on the way down. It is Tom and Kate. They have been to the
summit but aren’t going to wait for any sunrise.
“The hypothermic conditions are just too much for us to hang
around,” says Kate.
“Is it far to go?” I ask. I don’t get a reply to that. I
guess it is further than I am hoping.
The darkness softens a little. Now I can make out the
outlines of human bodies, not just torchlight. The wind gusts fiercely. The
near freezing rain comes down in gushing bursts.
“There it is, there’s the summit.”
It is way, way up and ahead of us. I groan. Does this
really have to go on?
We pass some others huddling from the now howling, gusting
wind behind some large granite rocks and I remember Jason’s story. I wonder if these are the same rocks that Jason had used as temporary shelter?
On and on we go. Now the summit is thirty, maybe forty
metres ahead. The climb gets steeper and steeper, the rock face is wet and slippery.
The end seems impossible. And then, right there in front of me is the plaque.
The detail of what is written I cannot read but we have, miraculously, reached the summit
of Low’s Peak – the highest peak – on Mount Kinabalu. 4,092 metres. There is
little room at the top – maybe four or five people can stand on the summit at
any one time. Down below us on the far side of the summit is a sheer drop of
thousands of metres.
My 68 year-old Australian friend is there with his son. He
wants a photograph of the two of us. Graham says he has his phone camera. I
have mine zipped into my jacket in a plastic waterproof envelope. I had thought a
picture was going to be easy! I take off my one rain-soaked glove and then the other. Unzipping the pocket
in my borrowed supposedly weather-proof jacket I fish out my phone which I had
stupidly switched off to save the battery. Now I have to switch it on and enable
it. I manage one photograph of Graham and Wilson behind him.
Wilson raises both his arms in salute to me and Graham and then takes a photograph of the two of us with Graham’s camera.
In that moment I know why I climbed Mount Kinabalu. I know that I am not crazy. And neither are the others who climbed. I now know what 'feeling on top of the world' really means.
My Australian friend’s son takes a photograph of his father and me together. He tries to tell me his name but the wind and the altitude make it impossible. I try to speak. My words are slurred, high pitched, unintelligible. My left cheek is numb from the cold. My tongue won’t work like it should.
Wilson raises both his arms in salute to me and Graham and then takes a photograph of the two of us with Graham’s camera.
In that moment I know why I climbed Mount Kinabalu. I know that I am not crazy. And neither are the others who climbed. I now know what 'feeling on top of the world' really means.
My Australian friend’s son takes a photograph of his father and me together. He tries to tell me his name but the wind and the altitude make it impossible. I try to speak. My words are slurred, high pitched, unintelligible. My left cheek is numb from the cold. My tongue won’t work like it should.
Graham at the Summit, Wilson behind |
Dave and Graham 'on top of the world' |
For two or three minutes I bask in the glow of success. Adrenaline and serotonin pump through my blood and brain and for a short while I don't feel the cold or the rain, only a warm glow within me.
And then it is time to go down. It is now light. What I
see in front of me scares the hell out me. Nothing but a broad barren sloping granite
landscape below us. How had we climbed this in the dark?
The wind is howling now, gusting fiercely. Wilson has put
on his lightweight poncho and it is flapping and cracking in the wind. I can see the gusts sweeping the rain ahead of us. I have never been in high winds like this, not ever. I can’t get my wet gloves back
on again. It is freezing cold.
I am blown over by the wind a couple of times. I look down and can see climbers disappearing over the edge of what looks like a
precipice. The rain causes gushing torrents of water on the rocks. My feet in
their Nike trainers (why don’t I have some proper equipment?) are soaking wet,
the water sloshes inside them. Graham’s gloves are useless and his hands and
feet are freezing.
Wilson keeps us going. Well me anyway.
The more I see of where we have been, the more I wonder how
I did it. It crosses my mind that the organisers had us climb in the dark
because if we saw the closeness and the steepness of some sheer drops on
either side of the pathway we wouldn’t be able to move from terror.
We near what I had perceived to be a precipice. It isn’t
but it is a much steeper decline. There is a heavy, wet, white rope for us to
use as a handhold and we back our way down the slope in the manner of
abseiling. My bare, freezing hands are taking flak on the rope. I try once
more to replace my gloves but no chance of that.
We move back into the upper mountain forest and the rain
and wind seems to ease.
Eventually back in the hut at 9:00 am.
Graham sends a WhatsApp message accompanied by a photograph
of the two of us at the summit to the family. It reads: “Massive effort from Dad this morning.
In unbelievably bad conditions he made it to the summit.”
My emotions finally break. I feel the tears well up in my
eyes. I know then that I have done something special this day. I heave my weary
body up from my chair and hug Graham in thankfulness for helping me to do something I did not know I could do.
To say that the final journey down was difficult is an understatement. I was energied out. After a kilometre I started to stumble and fall. The track was slippery with mud. A drizzle continued to fall. My leg muscles felt like mush. It was one painful step down after another. And Graham and Wilson had to put up with me. I fell and sustained a gash on my left shin and another on my right hand. Wilson took hold of my hand and helped me stumble down one step after the other. We reached the 4 kilometre rest hut. Graham said we couldn’t go on like this. At one stage when I fell, Wilson had nearly slipped over the edge of the track into a steep and endless ravine in helping me to recover.
“It’s not so steep from here on,” I said to Graham. “I can
manage. I’ll ask for help when I need it.”
At one of the rest huts I sat back, my aching back against a wall. Completely
drained I found myself talking to a climber on the way up.
“Did you make it to the summit?” he asked
“Yes, I did.”
“How old are you?”
“I’m 72”
“Where are you from?”
“I’m from Zimbabwe.”
I learned in further conversation that he was a pilot for
Saudi Airlines and he had climbed Kilimanjaro. He was with a young lady, I guessed his partner.
“Did you suffer from altitude sickness?” he asked
“No,” I replied.
He was concerned about his partner who feared altitude sickness
might get the better of her. They kitted up and before they moved
off he congratulated me on my success.
“If I can do it at your age, I’ll be a very happy man. Have
a safe journey down.”
Then another, younger man came up to me. He was smiling. A Philippine,
I think. He asked me the same questions as had the Saudi pilot. I answered all
three with a pride I have never experienced before and he gave me a wide grin
and a small salute with his hand.
“Good luck on the rest of the way down,” and he was gone.
At a little before
4:00 pm we made it to the end. It had taken us 5 hours to climb to Laban Rest
Hut. It took me 6 hours to get down. Wilson disappeared for a few minutes and
then returned with certificates of achievement. I was too tired and mentally
worn out to read it. But not too tired to give Wilson a warm hug and a sincere
thanks for caring so much for me. Our small party of friends had long gone back to KK in a
previous mini-bus.
There is just a little more to tell.
We made it back to our beach hotel and in the morning we
flew back to Miri. At the entrance to KK airport building we coincidentally met
up with Tom and Kate on their way home to Hong Kong. There is something special
about people who climb mountains that automatically builds friendship amongst
their kind.
“Did you make it?” they asked us both in unison.
We chatted some more about our individual experiences and
then parted ways. Probably for ever, yet the friendship will always be there.
What did I learn on this mountain? I learned to trust an individual I had no experience with. Why? Because he exhibited professionalism from the moment we met, he believed in me
and he never once let me down. I learned that Graham, apart from being a supremely fit 43 year-old, has outstanding patience
and understanding of other people.
I learned that life throws you opportunities every now and then and no matter how young or old you are, when this happens, take them with both hands and all of your heart.
I learned that perseverance can take you anywhere you want to go but to achieve your most challenging goals you need the help of others. The real miracle is that there is always someone there who will help. Sometimes it is a Wilson Latius, sometimes it is a close family relative, sometimes it is a Sgt Mike Lindley. But there is always someone.
I am not in the least sorry that I did not see the sunrise at the summit. On the contrary, I reflect on the high gusting winds, the rain and the freezing cold and I realise that it is because of these that the adventure carried real meaning for us all.
I learned that perseverance can take you anywhere you want to go but to achieve your most challenging goals you need the help of others. The real miracle is that there is always someone there who will help. Sometimes it is a Wilson Latius, sometimes it is a close family relative, sometimes it is a Sgt Mike Lindley. But there is always someone.
I am not in the least sorry that I did not see the sunrise at the summit. On the contrary, I reflect on the high gusting winds, the rain and the freezing cold and I realise that it is because of these that the adventure carried real meaning for us all.
People, they say, are always searching for the meaning of life. At the summit of Mount Kinabalu I found it.